Fixing a Wrong

We all make mistakes. We say things we wish had never left our mouth. Sometimes, we are in the middle of doing something, and we know it’s not right, yet we continue with what we started. Do we go on, as if what we did doesn’t matter? Do we acknowledge the incident? Do we apologize? We could just sweep it under the rug. We could fix it. What might that look like?

A number of months ago, I was attending a training workshop. It was a small group of business owners.  Much of what we did was hugely interactive. During one particular exercise, we were in groups of about 7-8 people and had a timed creative activity. We shared our experience after completing/competing against the other groups.  We were then given another opportunity to perform the task, this time with greater understanding and sharing of ideas.

This is where someone did something that wasn’t so cool. There was no undoing what happened. Feelings were hurt, and there was an overarching feeling of discord in this previously creative and easy-getting-along group of professionals. As a group, discussions went on and on about the incident. It seemed everyone had an opinion and take on what had occurred. About an hour and a half later, we finally got to a point where we had talked it all out and were able to move past the incident. Many of us were changed, maybe even guarded, as a result. The person that was the instigator made an offer to the original group of 7. He made an attempt to make amends.

Remember when we were kids, and when we did something wrong, we went and hid? That doesn’t work so much for adults.

“If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything you experience in your life.”
– Jack Canfield.

I’m narrowing what Jack was saying here. (I absolutely agree with this teaching point of his.) I’m specifically saying, own your mistake-acknowledge it.

I know malpractice attorneys will counsel limiting the scope of your responsibility, when referring to mistakes on patients. I’ll leave that to your attorney or insurance carrier. I’m talking about all other aspects of your life-communication with a team member, tardiness with information for your accountant, or letting your temper get the best of you. Own your actions and apologize. Sometimes, there are gray areas of life. You know what those are-omitting information or even saying you were unaware when you know the truth.  All of that stops the flow of abundance and prosperity in your life. As soon as you acknowledge, apologize, and make right, you allow more flow into your life.

Back to that event and incident. My husband and I will be going to Cabo San Lucas in November to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. We’ll be staying at the Diamonte Resort, courtesy of someone making a wrong a right.  Yes, it’s a HUGE gesture. I look forward to sharing that event and the beauty of Cabo and the resort with you.

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The coastline at Half Moon Bay where my training took place.

So now, it’s your turn. What action do you need to take, to fix a wrong? Do you need to apologize? Do you need to do more? That’s your call. I just know that unsatisfied errors, those that we just leave, create lack of flow in our lives. Go ahead—fix any wrongs and move forward. Everyone benefits.

I’d love to hear how you fixed things; shoot me an email at

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