Fear can take on the look of reason. “It is unrealistic to think that by working less you can make more money.” “If you don’t train adequately, you’ll injure yourself, and never be able to finish a marathon.” Looking up the definition, fear as a noun is; an unpleasant belief that . . . as a verb; being afraid, apprehensive of, filled with dread, obviously through action.
I love when I heard it explained as, future tripping. As in, not in the present moment. What if, we allowed this moment to be what it is, now, with an assurance, that just as we are handling this moment, we’ll be able to handle the next? Letting go of our need to control, as most dentists have that need, and let it go. What might that in reality pan out to be? Let’s look at letting go of our fear.
Recently, I was in Denver for the ADA (American Dental Association) Annual convention. I was between sessions, so I was sitting in a nice comfortable chair, and I engaged in a discussion with a couple of dentists from Missouri, and one of their spouse’s. They each had been practicing for thirty-five years, and were enjoying the convention, which they attended annually, both for the Continuing Ed, and for the vacation aspect of going to fun cities.
One of the dentists figured out within twelve years of practicing, that working a four day work week, was more beneficial than the potential of increased income of working five days. The other dentist took an additional ten years to come to the same conclusion, and wished he had made the decision much earlier. If you work four days, my guess is, that you’ve figured out the benefits, far outweigh the possible revenue gain. Here are some of the benefits, which I believe are universal;
- A balanced amount of time in the office and outside of the office.
- More productive generating income producing activities, when at the office.
- Enjoying a feeling of wellbeing with the balance you’ve created.
- Time to do more of what you love doing.
- A sense of flexibility.
- You can’t put a price tag on enjoyment of life.
- After thirty-five years of practicing, love doing what you are doing, and are doing it so that you can enjoy more of your life outside of the clinic.
- Confidently believe there will be enough to support (revenue and patients) what comes your way.
- Money doesn’t make you happy.
As we live in fear, it’s the future, that creates the anxiety. The what if’s . . . Yet, if we take action, make decisions, on creating that life we would love, right now, in this moment, believing that the future will take of itself, we will find, that many of the fears we entertained, never materialized.
Now, I’m not saying you won’t have challenges, life is full of them. Since we know our lives will produce challenges, whether we live in fear or not, we might as well, let go of the fear, and have belief, that just like we are handling this moment, we’ll be able to handle whatever comes our way. In the meantime, we aren’t going to put a hold on whether we are going to enjoy life right now, where we are, with what we have.
“There are two ways to live; you can live as if nothing is a
Miracle; or you can live as if everything is a miracle.”
So, practically speaking, how do we shut off the voice of reason? I’ll admit, that can be a challenge, the first time, until we learn to trust. Allow me to share how this looked, the first time I really put this into play, practically, with my own life.
I was twelve years post a cerebral hemorrhage caused from a virus. I was still experiencing daily head pain, and exhaustion simply from years of pain, and the ramifications from the virus, like achy joints. I had decided that I was going to launch a speaking career, and share my message of gratitude. Yet, I was very unsure how to schedule a speaking opportunity on the calendar, not knowing how I might feel, on any given day.
My Mentor suggested I hold the vision/idea in my mind (after I had written out how I wanted to physically feel), schedule my calendar with speaking opportunities, and believe that on the specific date I was scheduled, keep picturing that I was healthy, vibrant, and my message was well received. As crazy as it might seemed, I always felt great, strong, healthy, and vibrant on speaking days. So then, I decided (as in made a decision) that I was going to consistently feel healthy, strong, and vibrant.
To this day, that is true, I do. Here is the key, that most people miss, daily, I practice gratitude for my health, (amongst other things I’m grateful for). I literally thought, and took action, to achieve the vibrant health I enjoy today. I never picked up the fear, of what if . . . again. So, how do we relate this to your practice, and letting go of fear?
Let’s say that you have fear that financially, you won’t have “enough” in the future. Make a decision, for how many days a week you will see patients. Share it with your team, and immediately begin scheduling accordingly. Then, daily offer gratitude for your current patients, your future patients, the work you do that allows you to serve and treat your patients, and begin enjoying your time away from the clinic. With every day’s production, offer gratitude, that you have the skills and the appreciation of your patients, and you are able to successfully fund the operation for your clinic, provide for your team, give to your community, and have money that allows you to enjoy your life.
You may be a bit wobbly at first, and revert to your fear driven ways of worry. As soon as you realize, switch back to being positive, filled with gratitude, and enjoying what you have.
“Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right!”
If this is convoluted for you, download the pdf here for how to increase your production by 33%, it’s the same principal. You are always welcome to reach out to me by email; firstname.lastname@example.org Believe me, you will love letting go of your fear, and enjoying your life right now, in the present, rather than waiting for someday to be perfect, because someday is not a day of the week.