Are You Trying to Be Someone Else?

Deanna L. Robinson Keynote Speaker on Embracing Your Unique TalentsI’m a huge American Idol fan. It took me a while to jump on the bandwagon, I am now firmly on it! What has fascinated me is when a contestant chooses a song, and the judges jump on their case with negative comments.

They are encouraged to make the song their own. Or, to make song choices that represent who they are as an artist. This many times is received with puzzled looks by the contestant.

It’s almost like the contestant has no idea, and is hoping someone will tell them, who they should be.

Back when I was teaching and leading Bible Studies, I had participants say to me, “I want to pray just like you!” I would smile, and assure them that however, they prayed was the way God wanted to hear them.

Are you emulating someone, trying to be just like them?

Taylor Swift and Emma Lou

Deann L. Robinson Keynote Speaker Be YourselfMy youngest daughter, Emma Lou, just had her end of the year Middle School Dance. Once she picked out her dress, she began adding to that to create her “Look.”

She chose how she was going to curl her hair. She added accessories. When she was all dressed, she looked, in her mind’s eye, just like Taylor Swift. She wore Taylor Swift perfume. She even listened to her music as she was getting dressed.

Now, at 13, it’s ok. As an adult, not so much.

Influence versus Trying to
Be Someone Else

We all have had influences in our life. Don’t confuse that, with trying to be like someone. Believe me, when I was really struggling with physical adversity, I thought of how Olympic athletes would daily work their sport. How, no matter what they were going through, they kept going. That inspired me. It didn’t make me want to be an Olympic athlete.

Recently I had the opportunity to benefit from some business coaching from author and speaker Jon Acuff.  He had some great ideas for me with my job as PR Director at Positive Dental & Vision, and as a speaker. His book Quitter is fabulous! I love it! I really enjoy his daily blog. I follow him on Twitter.

Let’s be very clear, I don’t want to be like Jon Acuff. He’s talented; I’d love to have his sense of humor, and I admire his prolific ability to write. I have my own path. My own way. I can learn from Jon; I don’t need to be like him.

Embrace Your Unique Gifts and Talents

So, now we’re going to break all of this down. You have unique gifts and talents.

  • It takes strength to find out what they are and use them.
  • Dignity to not whine, wish, or want what or how someone else is. The gifts and talents you possess are enough for you.
  • When or if you find yourself trying to be like someone else, use some grace for yourself and change directions.

This year’s Idol winner Phillip Phillips, was consistently encouraged to sing more melody. He stayed true to himself, and he won. You don’t have to be an Idol fan, or even care about the outcome. America recognized someone being true to himself, by watching Phillip perform on TV.

Imagine the impact you will have in person, when you are true to yourself, utilizing your own unique gifts and talents.


  1. Pam robinson on June 7, 2012 at 11:24

    Great post deanna! agree with being who God made us to be but can learn from all we admire along the way! Emma looks great did she wear cowboy boots? Can’t see…. And Rock on phillip!!!! He was my favorite along w Colton… See you soon! Xx

    • Deanna on June 7, 2012 at 13:10

      Thank you for your comment!
      Emma did wear cowboy boots, she covered all fashion points! I agree, I loved Colton. In an interview after Colton was kicked off, he stated that he felt he disappointed his fans, because he went with a song that was not in line with who he is. Another example of why staying true to who you believe God made you, works!

  2. dee on June 7, 2012 at 13:04

    Wow!!! Emma you look smashing, LOVE THE BOOTS! You kinda remind me of someone I used to share a room with 🙂

  3. Debbie on June 7, 2012 at 17:44

    Hi Deanna,

    This is such a great post. I love how you have distinguished between “being influenced or inspired by someone else” versus trying to be someone else.

    As a marketing expert, I am constantly working with my clients to teach them the power of embracing their unique gifts and talents. Your tips on strength, dignity and grace provide a powerful message to business owners and entrepreneurs as they are trying to find their way to building a business and life they love.

    Thanks so much for sharing this!


    • Deanna on June 12, 2012 at 20:03

      Thank you for your comments! Your words are so kind and make my heart sing! It would be very easy as business owners and entrepreneurs to get lost in who we uniquely are. God has blessed each one of us with gifts that we need to share with others. We can’t do that, if we are trying to be someone else.
      I can personally testify to how you work with your clients helping them embrace their unique gifts and talents. You are a huge blessing to many!
      Be blessed,

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